If you're exhausted this might be why...

Hey Reader, somewhere along the way, being a good mom started to feel like being an exhausted mom.

Not because you mind doing the work—packing the lunches, keeping track of field trips, remembering which kid needs clothes for spirit week—but because it feels like if you don't do it, no one else will.

It's not just the to-dos. It's the remembering—the mental checklist of a thousand tiny things that keep your home running.

And honestly? That’s the heaviest part.

Not just doing it all. But carrying it all.

The Hidden cost of being "The One Who Remembers"

It's not that you resent your family. You love them! And keeping things running smoothly? It's second nature.

But there’s also frustration.

Not because it's too much to do—but because it doesn’t feel like a choice. Because:

• It's faster to do it yourself than to explain it.
• If you don't do it, it might not get done.
• Asking for help can feel like admitting you're struggling.

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So, you keep carrying it. Because it's easier than trying to change the system.

But here's the thing—just because you can do it all doesn't mean you should.

How to start shifting the mental load

Most people in your home don't fully realize how much invisible labor you carry—not because they don’t care, but because they’ve never had to hold it.

So, instead of just asking for help (which still leaves you as the manager), let’s shift the default system:

• Make the invisible, visible — Instead of "handling it," let your family see what’s involved. Keep a running "household responsibilities" list so everyone understands what goes into keeping the home running smoothly.

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• Change the default — Instead of "Mom, what's for dinner?" Try, "Hey, let's decide meals together this week." Instead of "Let me know if you need help," shift to, "Here's what I can take on."

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• Let go of control (Yes! Really!) — It won't be perfect, and that's OK. The goal isn't perfection. It's participation.

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• Create natural consequences — If laundry doesn't make it into the hamper, it doesn’t get washed. No nagging, just natural results.

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• Make expectations crystal clear — Instead of reminding your kids to put the dishes away when they're finished, set a simple rule: "Before you leave the table, clear your plate."

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You don't have to carry it all and you shouldn't! Your home shouldn't only function when you're managing every. single. thing.

Final thought: You're NOT the Default Manager.

Your home isn't just your responsibility.

So let's start shifting the load—one small step at a time.

This shift won't happen overnight—but every small change gets you closer.

Start with one of these tips today, and watch the transformation begin.

Which one are you going to try first? Hit reply and let me know!

You've got this! 💛

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